Pump me please.

Sugar muffins, let's talk, no wait...actually let's have a pop quiz. When you are with one of your girlfriends and she's all dolled up and you can just tell she is feeling herself cause butterflies are following her, birds are singing and any trace of gray clouds have left the sky....what do you say to her?

A) You look cute.
B) Honey, wurk that shit, you look hot!
C) I'm hungry, do you know where I can get a turkey burger?
D) Did you get a hair cut?

In my observation, a lot of women would say, A) you look cute, to downplay the spectacularness of their friend or mention something else completely like D) did you get your hair cut / I'm hungry... Ummmm....HELLO! LADIES PLEASE, we are all seeking love, compliments and attention from our dream partner...but you can also give it to your friends and they can give it to you. You don't have to wait to be told how effen gorgeous you are by your dream partner or current partner, I strongly believe your friends should tell you and you should tell them. Pump each other up....why the hell not?

Every single person has something beautiful about them and when they feel confident they will exude sexiness. And it's not just about how your dolled up friend looks...it's far beyond that. It's that she is treating herself special, she was brave and wore something that would get attention from men and woman good or bad, and most importantly, that she feels good. ENCOURAGE her and choose friends who encourage you. I have a few women like this in my life and after we hang out I feel so full of love and energy. And I know they feel the same from me. On the contrary, I have hung out with women who are not as confident and secure with themselves and you can feel that energy. One particular woman once told me I looked better when I was thinner and asked if my boyfriend liked my body how it was now. Wow...REALLY?! I laugh now but in the moment I really considered what she was saying. Looking back I now know she was she full of doubt for her own womanly figure and femininity. Those kind of comments are toxic and can be contagious so be careful. Life is short mon chanton, you must surround yourself with people who see YOU.

Choose wisely ladies, we don't have to compete against one another, there is an abundance of love and partners in the universe if you believe so. I always try to remember that my relationships are a reflection of what I believe about myself. You can be beautiful and sexy and so can every other woman. And the more you learn to love who you are, just as you are, the easier it becomes to compliment people, and the funny part is people will start to compliment you more too. You gotta give love to receive love and it starts with you. By the way you look really pretty right now.

Love each other up. Make mama proud! Wurk that shit honey, WURK IT. I'd like to wurk it in these Kate Spade shoes I saw today in Pasadena (photo above). Kate Spade, you are an inspiration and you got me all hot and bothered, glittered up and dizzy from your poppin' color palette and your talented designs. Wearing these charm heels would made me feel like a Cinderella African Princess gone Fem Chic. Ha ha ha.

p.s. please checkout Holistic Yogini, "Self-care? No Self-LOVE". If my posting was Part 2, hers would be Part 1. Making it a priority to show love for yourself is VITAL...then once your bucket is full you can show love for others with ease and joy, not out of obligation. We have decided to start a revolution of self-love! Viva la Chicas!

**top photo by the talented postcaredsandlove's.

xo

Rashaan Cruzé

www.rashaancruze.com

"You wander from room to room, searching for the diamond necklace that is already around your neck". - Rumi

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